My Thoughts on Homosexuality

This topic is so highly debated in today's world, and I haven't really given my opinions on it thus far, besides on my about me page.

Please know that through this post I am not trying to be "mean" to anybody. I don't want to come across like I think I'm better than gay people - because I'm not. We are all sinners in need of God's grace. This topic is just coming up more and more today in conversations, political discussions and debates, etc. It is becoming more common and acceptable to see gay couples, and I thought I'd share my opinion on it. Feel free to comment respectfully, but please realize that this is my blog and I am free to share my personal beliefs. Please do not bash my beliefs in your comment. Thank you muchly ☺.

I am anti-homosexuality.

Please do not ditch this post if you are pro-gay rights. Please hear me out and feel free to comment. I'd like to hear what you think about this subject. I just ask this: that you respect my beliefs. Thank you kindly :-).

I am anti-homosexuality because God clearly bans it in the Bible. Leviticus 18:22 says: Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable. If you are pro-homosexuality, you may wonder what on earth God has to do with homosexuality and why He should have a say in it. Well, He did create everyone, so I think He should have a say in how we should live! (In fact, He should be completely in charge of our lives!)

Many people have asked the question, "What if they're in love?" They ask what it has to do with us and why we are so against homosexuality when it doesn't effect us. I am against homosexuality because God did not create men to love men and women to love women in that way. It's like donkeys and cows; they don't mate. They weren't made to mate. It's not the way God created it to be.

Why does it matter if "God says so"?
It's like a parent and a child. Nearly every child wants to do something they can't, and when their parents say no, they don't understand why. This thing they want to do brings them "happiness." But now Mom and Dad are banning it. What the little kids can't see is that that thing that brings them "happiness" is not what Mom and Dad want them to be doing. It's not what's best for them. A bunch of little kids could debate that "it makes them happy; let them do it," but Mom and Dad would still know what's RIGHT and would still have ultimate authority over their child.

One (not all, but one) of the main reasons for marriage is reproduction. Homosexuals do not have the right parts to reproduce. It's just not how it was meant to be. Marriage between one man and one woman is how it is meant to be; marriage or sexuality between homosexual people is just gratifying their desires.

A crack addict could believe that his addiction was right. He could get together a bunch of people to fight for his cause. He could say he was born a crack addict, and he couldn't change who he was. He could argue that it made him happy, so why couldn't he do it? Just because it made him happy doesn't mean that being addicted to crack was what was RIGHT.

Many people argue that homosexuals are born gay and that they can't help it. I don't know all the details of how people become gay, but I do not believe at all that they are "born that way." If gay people were really born gay, why weren't there as many homosexual people a few hundred years ago as there are now? I believe that different situations could lead to a person having homosexual thoughts, and then, if they choose to put those thoughts into action, they could "become gay." I really don't know the details, but I do not believe people are born that way. If you're a girl, you're not born a boy (and vice versus). It's just not the way it's meant to be. You're not born a murderer, or a thief, or a crack addict. It's a choice.

I'm not saying that I'm better than homosexual people. That's not true at all. I'm just as sinful as anyone. But I can't stand by and say that homosexuality is okay, because it's not. I can't say I agree with it or support it, because I don't and never will.

I don't believe that we should discriminate homosexual people, however. I believe that we should love them (and all people). However, that doesn't mean I can support what they do.

Thanks for hearing out what I believe. I'm interested in seeing what you believe about this topic as well.
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Kathryn  – (June 2, 2012 at 12:50 PM)  

Great job, Talia :) I agree!

Hannah  – (June 2, 2012 at 1:26 PM)  

Talia, I agree completely with you! This is very wrong, and I can't thank you enough for posting your beliefs about it.


Kate  – (June 2, 2012 at 1:57 PM)  

A flaw in your logic: yes, there appeared to be fewer homosexual people a few hundred years back than there are today, but that is because being a homosexual at that time was a crime punishable by loss of home and loss of employment, as well as a violation of social taboo that often escalated to violence. Each homosexual person is given a choice to live openly as homosexual, or live a "closeted" life and engage in heterosexual relationships. Today, the choice to live an earnest, open life as a homosexual person does not have such severe repercussions.

Also, boys are sometimes born into the biological bodies of girls; because you have never experienced it happen personally does not mean that it doesn't exist.

The difference between the crack addict and the homosexual couple who wish to marry is thus: the crack addict is hurting people with his decision, and the homosexual couple is not. The crack addict is hurting himself and others through a physically toxic act which causes him to act in unhealthy and unpredictable ways. The homosexual couple are, in contrast, asking for the political blessing of a democracy -- not a theocracy -- to enjoy the legal benefits of marriage.

I am not a drug user, but I am a homosexual woman. I've never been compared to a drug user before today, but I have been compared to a murderer. (The comparison portrayed the murderer more positively than it portrayed me.) I've also been told that were I to commit suicide, I would get into Heaven, but were I to enjoy a life-long romantic and sexual relationship with another woman, I would go to Hell regardless of any virtue in my Earthly life.

The bottom line is, homosexual people are still people, and have as much right to make their own decisions as heterosexual people. Someday, I will choose to marry my wife, and you will choose to marry your husband, and neither of our decisions will adversely affect the other. We will both be happy about our marriages and excited to spend the rest of our Earthly lives with the person we adore most.

Kara "Klarabelle" Siert  – (June 2, 2012 at 7:13 PM)  

Thank you for posting this, Talia. Also, the Bible says we are to be fruitful and multiply, which homosexual people can't do. I understand this is a hard topic and I'm grateful that you are willing to post about it. I may not have all the answers, but I know that God does.

Elisha(:  – (June 3, 2012 at 2:15 PM)  

Good for you Talia!! Stay strong!


Kara  – (June 5, 2012 at 4:25 AM)  

Talia, great post! BTW please go on my blog-I awarded you. :)

AGLOVERELIZABETH  – (June 6, 2012 at 4:20 PM)  

I disagree. What Kate says is true, why compare a homosexual to a crack addict? The addict hurts people, the homosexual who marries someone of his/her same gender does not.
I am a Christian, too, just like you, and I have my opinions. I am heterosexual but I am in favor of gay marriage because I believe that everyone has the right to be in love with whoever they want, regardless of gender.
But I know that this is your opinion, and it's the right opinion for you. Whatever you choose to believe is what you believe, and you shouldn't change your opinion just 'because.'

Anonymous –   – (June 10, 2012 at 8:40 PM)  

Don't forget Sodom and Gomorrah. The reason they were destroyed was because of their homosexuality...

Just a thought.

Talia  – (June 10, 2012 at 8:50 PM)  

You're absolutely right. I've realized THAT part of my post (saying there is more homosexuality now) was just an assumption. I guess, it seems like it's just more ACCEPTED now, not that its more/ less than a couple hundred years ago. Sorry about that!

kinga  – (June 28, 2012 at 8:55 PM)  

I am pro-gay rights, totally and completely. And though I'm straight, I know you don't choose to be gay. First of all, why would anyone choose to be gay when they know how many people hate gays and would bully and harass them for it? Second, there were just as many gay people earlier in time as there are now. The only difference? Now they won't be as severely punished for being openly gay. That's the way it was for much of time. Would you come out, then, if you knew you'd be, for example, murdered, and essentially outcast from society? I wouldn't.

Also, you say 'I don't believe that we should discriminate homosexual people.' Yet denying them the right to marry IS discrimination - there's no other word for it.

Discrimation is defined as: "The unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people or things, esp. on the grounds of race, age, or sex. OR Recognition and understanding of the difference between one thing and another."

And current law does discriminates against homosexual couples in that they are not allowed to marry, when heterosexual couples can.

I honor your opinion, though, and I hope I wasn't overly offensive. I've just seen so many posts like this, and seen first-hand the effect of popular opinions about gays on my friends who are gay or lesbian, and it frustrates me.

Also, I don't know if you know who John Green is. He's a well-known author who also makes vlogs with his brother, Hank on youtube at vlogbrothers. He made a really good video addressing the issue called "Religion and Gay Marriage" and Hank made a video called "Your Arguments are Invalid: Gay Marriage." I suggest watching both. I put links to them below, at the end of my comment.

I also find it kind of extreme to compare homosexuals to murderers, drug addicts, or thieves. Homosexuality does not harm you, me, or anyone - it is only a difference in who one loves. Murderers, drug addicts, and thieves, however, harm people and harm themselves. There is no correlation.

Also, you say "If you're a girl, you're not born a boy (and vice versus)." What about the transgender? And you may say they CHOOSE to be transgender, but there are numerous cases where children as young as 2 years old knew they were transgender such as in the article linked below, from the Chicago Tribune. How would a 2 year old be capable of making a conscious decision as complex as their gender and sexual orientation? And why on earth would they, if they possibly could?

And now, I'm sorry this had turned into such a long rant. Hope to hear your opinions on this and I hope you don't think this is meant to offend you - it's most definitely not.

I've linked the videos I mentioned below so you can watch them. Not spam, I promise!

Religion and Gay Marriage:

Your Arguments are Invalid: Gay Marriage

Talia  – (June 29, 2012 at 11:05 AM)  

I commented on your blog

Rachel Hipps  – (July 3, 2012 at 12:50 PM)  

Hey Talia,
Thanks for all of your lovely comments on my blog. ;) i really appreciate them. :)
I'm straight but pro-gay rights. I firmly believe that you are BORN gay. And there are more gay people now because a few hundred years, ago it was totally unacceptable. Now, a lot more people are more accepting. States (a few awesome states) are legalizing gay marriage. It's easier to 'come out' now then it was 300 years ago.
And on reproduction... if a man and woman are married and they can't have a child so they use a surrogate or artifical insemination, shouldn't they not be allowed to be married? According to [a lot of] Christians, gay people would destroy the sanctiny of marriage since they can't reproduce naturally... so I guess couples of different sex that can't have kids naturally shouldn't be married either? You can claim that it's unnatural, but look, we adapt to unnatural things like cars, hair straighteners, fake hair, makeup. The world's changed- so have we. So let's just make another change. Let's let gays marry and be happy. This life is SOO short... way to short to live in misery because somebody has taken away your rights.

Marriage is a basic HUMAN RIGHT. It is NOT a Christian privelege or a heterosexual privilege. It is a basic human right.
Now, I totally respect your religion and your beliefs. I think that you presented your argument very nicely. :) So I majorly respect that. Most of the people I know are Christian and a lot are probably anti-gay. My best friend and I disagree on this topc, but we accept each other and have a blast. ;) But, I have had so much crap thrown at me from supposedly Christian bloggers, it's unbelievable. I've basicly had religion shoved down my throat. One supposed Christian blogger laughed at me. And my beliefs not being respectred really makes me mad. As you can probably see in my comment. hehe. I get pretty fired up on this topic. ;)

The world isn't going to follow the Bible rules. America isn't going to follow the Bible rules. It's just not. We will have to change with the world. Or we'll be stuck like fools forever. And I know that people say that 'Christ doesn't change so neither can I'... but the Bible was written thousands and thousands of years ago. That's a long time. The world has changed SO much. People are helping other people claim their rights (gay marriage). This isn't Bible times anymore. It's the 21st century. It's time for every single human being on this earth to have equal rights.

ANYHOOOWERS. I'm going to shut my mouth now. *steps off soapbox* ;P I realize I was pretty fired up and mad, and I'm sorry about that. Hopefully you're not offended. :) I would love a reply to my comment to see what you think. ;)

God bless.
xo. rachel

Rachel Hipps  – (July 3, 2012 at 3:38 PM)  

Hey Talia,
Thanks for the reply! It was much appreciated. Yes, sexually abused children and young adults are probably more more likely to 'turn gay'. but, parents can tell when their kids, who don't think about sex and who they like, are acting differently. They're born that way or are like that from a young age, even if they're not abused. I don't know this for sure, being straight, but I'm pretty sure that people don't walk down the street and think "Oh my gosh that guys hot. I think i'll become gay."
I was little confused when you said 'Saying marriage is a basic human right is kind of like saying, no offense, that having children is a basic human right'. Yes, only females can bear children but that has nothing to do with marriage. You can be married and not have kids. If a single guy wants a kid he can adopt one. But the fact remains that we are taking away American rights.
Will giving gays the right to marry destroy America? No. Will giving gays the right to marry destroy the sancnity of 'straight' marriage. No- they're gonna get married and go on living their lives like every normal person. What they do behind is closed doors is NOBODY's business.
You also said "Also, many different writers (all inspired by God of course) wrote the book". I think you were reffering to the Bible there?. For me, I will not follow a book written by a human being. If God actually sat down with a pen in his hand and wrote the Bible with his own hand, yeah, I would probably follow the Bible. But PEOPLE. PEOPLE wrote the Bible. Sure, you can say that they were inspired by God/were filled with his will, but you just don't know. Nobody knows. You don't know that they didn't just write down whatever in the heck they wanted. How is the Bible God's Word if he didn't write the words.
It's hard for me to argue on this topic because I have no Holy Book to quote verses from. I COULD very easily get out a Bible and throw out a lot of Bible verses/rules that Christians choose to ignore. In fact, I will throw a verse out. :) 1 Corinthians 5:12 says: "What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church?". We need to leave the judging to GOD. And if gay people end up in hell (which I do not believe in) then the Bible is true. If they end up in heaven (which I DO believe in), hurray. If my being pro-gay rights and not believing the bible is true puts me in hell, hurray. I already live in the desert and it's HOT (<<< that was me being sarcastic, just so you know. ;) ). Like 105-110 degree temps. (And yes, I'm dying. We need a swimming pool. Or a giant freezer that I can sit in for a few minutes. haha.)

And you saying that just because we have totally different beliefs doesn't mean we can't be friends made me happy. :) I love people who, despite their differences (my best friend and I, I think are a good example) can get along. I've tried posting two times about my beliefs/pro-gay rights, and RIGHT away, I was getting a lot of unfollows.
So now I just try to keep religion and such off my blog. It's better, for me that is, not to be posting about what I believe.

Holy smokes. I type/talk a LOT. ;P I would love another reply. :)

xo. rachel

Rachel Hipps  – (July 3, 2012 at 6:57 PM)  

Slight edit to my comment. I believe in some things in the Bible. Like the stories and like how the earth began and all. :)

Rob in Toronto –   – (November 12, 2012 at 7:20 AM)  

My dear you truly just do not understand. Perhaps someday with some experience and age you will grow to understand people and how you are a part of destroying a whole segment of humanity.

Just yesterday I invited a gay friend to come to church with me. This church is inclusive and welcomes all. Still the anguish that was in my friend at the idea of stepping into a church was overwhelming to watch. Tears ran down his face as we sat there.

NO IT WAS NOT conviction... it was akin to going back to a family home where there was great abuse. The desire to be "home" mixed with the angst of all of the terrible memories and painful emotions that came flooding back.

I have seen this before...good people that grew up in the church... that want to love god, but eventually had to make the choice that was forced upon them... to either be true to themselves or to be a christian as many religious claim a christian is.

I asked him later what he was thinking. He told me that he so misses the church, but that the reminder of the wars that he battled for years was simply too much. That regardless of what the church claimed about the sin and the sinner, that the church had succeeded in convincing him of how God (and the church) hates him at core. Stepping into that buidling only succeeded in reminding him of the years that the church had succeeded in making him hate himself.

We talked of the shame that the church poured on him. How he begged god to make him straight. How he tried everything to be what the church claimed he could be. Eventually the "war" within him became too much. Eventually he understood that this was not something he was struggling "against"... this is who he is.

His freedom came when he finally realized that this was not going to change. But it came at a price. His only chance at freedom would mean that he would never again be accepted by his family, his church, or by extension their god. Still so strong is the desire for freedom that he took it. He has not looked back.

With the freedom came all kinds of lies and agendas that the church would claim that he was now living. They claimed that he was doing this or doing that... that he was now a part of some huge gay demonic agenda. In truth he has never been any different than who is has always been. Just that now THEY know about it.

Yesterday made him look back. He cannot go back there. The scars from the church are much too deep. They have etched their misery on him with a vengeance that cannot be forgotten. He does not want to revisit that war. He does not trust their intentions. He does not believe that they love him.

No my dear, I truly do not accept that you understand. You are not empathetic... you are instead ignorant to the realities of the human condition. Worse you take to the microphone as a spokesman of god.

You do not speak for god. You speak your own interpretations of religious texts. This is religion at its worst... the kind that spreads hate in a spoonful of sugar. If anything I have learned... it is how hate can be so easily disquised as love.

Jordin –   – (November 13, 2012 at 9:03 PM)  

I am a Christian... and I don't think homosexuality is right. I completely believe that God says that homosexuality is a sin. However... So is not keeping the Sabbath. So is copying on homework assignments. So is coveting something another person has. However, there aren't horrible debates about these topics. They aren't at the forefront. Why? Why do Christians (remember that I'm a Christian too, in this pile) make homosexuality a worse sin than all of those others? I completely believe that God sees them all the same: it's sin. Period.
I think that gay people should be able to have the same rights as straight people. Even though I don't agree with their life choices, who am I to take that away from them? I'm a sinner, too. I have my own temptations and my own faults. We all do. We will ALL have to talk to God one day about the things we've done in our lives.
Additionally, it is so sad to me that so many Christians are blatently discriminating against homosexuals. (This comment is not directed toward you or your post; it's just something I've been thinking about lately.) A couple weeks ago at a college near me, pastors and people from the church went and preached on the campus about how all homosexuals were going to hell. All of the sermons were filled with hatred. I believe that what those preachers did was just as big of a sin as homosexuality itself. I believe they'll have to face God someday for that, as well. Jesus says that one of the greatest commandments is to love one another. I don't see a lot of love in any arguments about this issue.
I appreciate that you shared your thoughts on the issue on your blog. Thank you for letting us comment and share our views as well.

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