Letting Men be Men

Whether you're choosing to court or date in the future, you should know something about guys:

They need to be leaders.

It is God's plan that men are the leaders of their family and women assist their husbands. Men and women have different roles, but they are both equally important.

In guy-girl relationships (and marriage), it is becoming more and more common to see women leading the family. I believe strongly that God planned for men to be the leaders of their families. Many times in relationships, the girls are pursuing the guys. Sounds familiar, huh? A lot of times girls text guys, call them, plan dates, and initiate nearly everything in the relationship. Girls want to confirm that they are still "loved" by guys, and they want to make sure they get to spend a lot of time with their guy.
I'd like to propose an alternative: what if we let men be men? I'm not saying girls can't call guys or get jobs or anything like that. No! I'm saying this: what if we girls let guys initiate everything in the relationship? What if they had to pursue us instead of the other way around? If you don't know already, you're a treasure, girl, and you shouldn't be easily won. One special man should have to work very, very hard to gain your heart. You shouldn't be easy-to-win, giving yourself away to any guy that shows interest and making it easy for the guy. That isn't how God intended it. God intended men to be leaders. Who wants to marry a wimpy guy, anyway?

In conclusion, girls, whether we date or court (or we're currently unsure), let's make the men work for us ☺. Seriously - we shouldn't be easy to win. Let's allow guys to build up confidence and become leaders. Let's guard our hearts for that one special man God has planned for each of us!

Ephesians 5:22-24
22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

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Kianna Rose  – (May 17, 2012 at 1:02 PM)  

Yes, I agree that men are to be the leaders in relationships and the women are there to be help-meets. We, as ladies should let men be men:)

Guarding our hearts is def. very important!

Chelsea  – (May 17, 2012 at 2:18 PM)  

Hmm...good post! i've actually been thinking a lot about this lately. thx for the reminder that i should wait for God to bring the right guy into my life instead of trying to find him in a sea of frogs :)

~Chelsea <3

Brooke  – (May 17, 2012 at 4:44 PM)  

I never really gave much thought to that. But after reading this post, I totally agree!

Molly  – (May 17, 2012 at 7:42 PM)  

This was really good! I totally agree that they are to be leaders, and we are to be there for support and encouragement =D


Kyrie  – (May 18, 2012 at 8:23 AM)  

Very good post! I recently had an opportunity to speak to a youth group on a similar topic and had a good response. Here's the link to the post where I told about it, if you're interested in reading my thoughts :) :



Anonymous –   – (May 21, 2012 at 11:58 AM)  

This is frightening to me... What if the man being a man decides it's his manly duty to beat his wife into submission? Does the woman not have the option of filing for divorce, because God did not intend for that to happen?

I'm not saying the woman should always lead the relationship, but neither should the man. It should be an equal relationship, give and take.

Talia  – (May 21, 2012 at 12:10 PM)  

Anonymous - thank you for visiting and for taking the time to comment! I really do appreciate hearing your opinion.

I believe that if a man is beating his wife, she should seek help - immediately. You're right - that is NOT how God intended the marriage to be. As for filing for a divorce, I am honestly not sure. The man would most likely be put in prison, which would technically end the marriage.

I do have to disagree that neither the man nor woman should be the leader of their home. In God's Word, He clearly calls the men to be the spiritual and financial leaders of their home. I'm not saying at all that women are not equal to men - I'm saying that leading their home is not supposed to be their God-given job. A woman's God-given job is to assist her husband. Men and women have different roles, but both roles are equally important.

If you have any further thoughts or questions, I'd love to hear them. Thanks for stopping by my blog!

~ Talia

Kara "Klarabelle" Siert  – (May 21, 2012 at 1:35 PM)  

This is a great post! I was just thinking about posting something similar :) Great minds think alike! I totally agree with this post, you're amazing!

4readin  – (May 25, 2012 at 3:33 PM)  

Thanks for such a great post! I agree totally!

4readin  – (May 25, 2012 at 3:41 PM)  

Hi Talia!

This is 4readin. I just wanted to thank you for commenting on Taylor Lynn's blog post, the one about gay rights. I commented on another one of her posts, when I realized that she was writing a story about two girls dating each other. I politely disagreed.

Then the next day she posted that one that you commented on. I do not know if you saw my comment before she removed it. I appreciated her honesty in standing up for what she believed, just as I do yours. I must admit I was kind of feeling alone, with about 7 comments for homosexual practices and only me against them. So I just wanted to thank you for coming in and posting!

(PS--You do not need to post this comment. I just did not know how else to contact you!)

AGLOVERELIZABETH  – (June 7, 2012 at 1:49 PM)  

Well, I disagree. I honestly think it should be kind of a 50-50 relationship.

Talia  – (June 7, 2012 at 2:25 PM)  

4readin - ditto! Keep standing strong!

Oops, sorry! I didn't see the part where u said not to post it!!

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