I've done a post on purity before, but I thought I'd do a sort of follow-up talking about courting.
Now, before you get the picture in your head of an old-fashioned couple riding around in a carriage, let me give you an accurate definition of current "courting."
Wikipedia defines courtship like this:
1. Why have I chosen to court?
I believe that purity is something very important to God (check out Psalm 51:10), and I'd like to avoid any situations that could tempt me or my potential court-er to compromise our boundaries. I also believe that a man who chooses to court rather than date shows great responsibility and maturity...the fact that he will have to muster up the courage to ask my dad if he can get to know me is pretty cool. I also believe that it is good to develop a friendship with the man you want to possibly have a romantic relationship with in the future. Besides, if he's going to be your husband someday, shouldn't the two of you be best friends? And if this man could very well be your husband someday, shouldn't he get to know your family, too? Please don't be offended if you have chosen to date, but in some (not all) dating circumstances, the boyfriend and girlfriend are a "couple" just because of...
1) peer pressure
3) just so they have a girlfriend/boyfriend
They are most likely not thinking about marriage or thinking of the other person...they may not be mature enough for a romantic relationship. And I know this is certainly not always the case, and many people choose to date and do so wisely; courting is just something I have chosen for me personally.
2. Why am I waiting until I'm older?
Although I don't know what God's going to do with my future, I'd like to wait until I'm out of college until I even consider a romantic relationship. I will be busy with school and other things, and I'd like to finish all that before considering getting married. I also believe that teens like me are too young to date...people who date at the ages of 13, 14, 15, and even 16 and 17 most likely won't be getting married. The relationship is usually just for fun or to make them feel good...nothing of eternal value. I'd also like my potential spouse to be out of college and know what he wants to do with his life so he can support a family.
So...these are my thoughts. I'm sorry if I offended you; I certainly didn't mean to. If you have anything to share, or even an opposing opinion, please feel free to comment (in love).
What do you think about courting? Are you going to date or court, or are you unsure?