The One Who Will Pursue You

By a raise of hands, can I see who here has seen the Disney film Cinderella? In case you haven't, I'll explain the storyline...

The tale of Cinderella is about a girl named (you guessed it!) Cinderella who lives with her evil stepmother and stepsisters. Her dream is to fall in love with and marry a prince (a.k.a. Prince Charming). One thing leads to another, and in short, Cinderella ends up at the ball dancing with the prince in a beautiful gown "bibbidi-bobbity-boo-ed" by her fairy godmother. BUT, the effects will only last until midnight, so she runs, and accidentally leaves her glass slipper. The prince goes on a "massive" search for her, and, in short once again, they end up getting married and living "happily ever after."

Now, don't you sometimes imagine yourself twirling around a ballroom with a handsome prince as sweet music plays in your ears? Maybe you aren't the type to dream of yourself as Cinderella, or maybe you are. Whatever your style is, it is true indeed that many girls hope to find love, a.k.a. "Prince Charming."
It is a strange yet, for the most part, understandable desire to be loved by a dude (please excuse my "slang" ☺). And not just any dude - a dude who's gonna pursue you, love you, adore you, admire you, be there for you, and have these certain feelings for you and only you. I believe that the problem comes in not where you want this kind of love, but when you let that want go too far.

Let's dive further into this...first of all, let's look up the definition of Purity in good ol' Webster's dictionary.

Purity: Being pure.

Okay, pretty self-explanatory. But what does it mean to be pure? Here's what I think...

Keeping your heart, mind, and body clean of anything that would not please God. ♥ 

I have decided to wait to kiss until I'm married. Now, don't get me wrong, I made this decision not just because my parents want me to, but because I want to. I believe that waiting to kiss until you are married is a good example of purity, as is being pure in what you think and do. Psalm 119:9 says: "How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to Your Word." But how can we know what's pure and what isn't? Well, by doing what the verse in Psalms says: "By living according to Your Word." How are we going to kick down the barriers the devil throws at us if we aren't spending time with God talking to Him, worshiping Him, and reading His Word? How will we know what's right and what isn't? I'll admit that it is hard a lot of times to really be constant and consistent in spending time with God. It may seem boring, dull, hard to understand...or maybe you just have other things you want to do (I do that a lot, unfortunately). By spending time with God and in His Word, it will be so much easier to make the right choices and say no to the wrong ones. Check out what 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 says about purity: "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies." Tough stuff, huh? Maybe you're thinking, I'm never gonna be sexually immoral or anything. Why is it so wrong just to like guys and hope that they like me? I'm certainly NOT saying that liking guys (or wanting them to like you, for that matter) is wrong. It happens to most girls (if not all!). I'm saying that being pure of our hearts, minds, and bodies is so vitally important. You are pleasing God when you are pure - isn't that awesome? It most certainly IS! And why would you not want to please God?

Another important topic not to be missed is our words. Have you ever heard the saying, "Sticks and bones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me"? I definitely don't believe that to be true. Words do hurt! We all know that! Do you think it's uplifting if your BFF calls you a liar or you're teased because your hairstyle is "so last year"? Yes! Proverbs 15:26 says this: "The LORD detests the thoughts of the wicked, but gracious words are pure in his sight." God delights in precious words! And He also tells us that if we are hurt (or no matter WHAT), He will be there for us.

Joshua 1:9
"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”

Isn't that way reassuring? God's gonna be there, so we don't need to be afraid!

Another thing about words...sometimes dudes say stuff that sound really nice just to get our affection or get something from us for his gain. Sorry that this is a totally disgusting analogy, but stick with me here... imagine a pile of dog poop sitting on the ground (okay, I told you it was going to be disgusting!). Then, imagine that someone comes and sprinkles sugar on it to "sweeten" it. Then they offer it to you. Would you eat it? Hello! Duh, no (at least, I hope not)! The sugar wouldn't help when you knew that it was dog poo. Even if someone completely covered it with sugar so that you couldn't see the droppings any more, I betcha you still wouldn't eat it. That's what I'm trying to say. Dudes may cover up their words with sugar to make you think they are sweet words. Now, I'm not saying that all guys are evil. Definitely not! But I'm saying to stand your guard when temptations come. Guys may say things like, "You're the prettiest girl I've ever seen," "You have the greatest figure," "I love you, and only you," "If you loved me you'd do it," or stuff like that. IF you give into these guys, you will most likely find yourself alone and scarred. The types of guys that coat poop with sugar are guys that will most likely leave you after they get what they want - or if they don't. Don't be afraid to do what's right because you're worried that you'll lose the guy you like (or that you think you love). Don't convince yourself that this guy is the "one for you" simply because his words are sweet.

A saying (not sure who by) goes like this: "A woman should be so lost in God, that a man needs to seek Him in order to find her." Now isn't that something? You are worthy of so much more than sugar-coated poop. Believe me! You are worth it. Well, who says? God! He created you!

Psalm 139:13-14 says: "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."

God may or may not be preparing a man for you to marry one day. But please, dear friend, wait for that man. It will be worth it - it will be SO worth it! And while you wait, if it gets difficult to wait for him or if it seems like he is never coming, remember something - God will always be there for you. He loves you so much, and He created your inner self (just like the verse says). He is pursuing you, loving you, adoring you, waiting for you. Run to Him - His arms will be open for you.

Talia  – (March 29, 2011 at 4:36 PM)  

Thanks, Bookworm! I really hope somebody really gets something out of it.

Hannah :)  – (March 29, 2011 at 6:07 PM)  

Talia! wow. just wow. your post are so beautiful, and inspiring! :D And they really get me thinking.
I agree with just about everything you said. I think my first kiss is valuable even if it is before marriage. As long as it isn't with sugar-coated poo. (lol! Nice analogie by the way! It made me laugh. :)

Talia  – (March 29, 2011 at 6:38 PM)  

Hannah, thank you! I'm really glad that the post got you thinking. I think a first kiss is VERY valuable. Haha, I'm glad you like the analogy :). I laughed when I read that YOU luaghed :D! I will be praying for you and other girls to remain pure and save yourself for your future spouse! Thanks for being such a good friend :).

Talia  – (March 29, 2011 at 6:47 PM)  

Whoops, I mean laughed ;). That goes to show you that nobody's perfect (except Jesus, of course)!

Kyrie  – (March 30, 2011 at 12:22 PM)  

Hi Talia - this is my first visit to your blog, and boy am I glad I stopped by!! This post is /SO/ refreshing! So many people today, even those who call themselves 'Christians', are so flippant with their purity. It is so sad and discouraging, especially when someone wears a 'purity ring' and you know they are NOT pure! Their hearts are not pure, their thoughts are not pure, their lips are not pure. They may be 'saving themself' for someone, but they are giving away just as much as they can without going 'all the way'.
Thank you so much for posting this! I am a college student and am very busy, so I don't get to write as much as I would like, but I have been planning to do a post on this very issue for a couple of weeks now. If you'd like, I'll try to let you know when I post it.

Thank you again so much for the wonderful encouragement!!!



Brydon  – (March 30, 2011 at 12:52 PM)  

This is GREAT talia!! Yeah I laughed when you wrote You are so much more valuable than sugar-coated poop! ROTFL. This is so great and I totally agree with you on everything!

Talia  – (March 30, 2011 at 1:54 PM)  

Haha, Brydon, I hope it was a good analogy! Thanks for commenting. I really appreciate it :).

Kryie, so excited to have you on the blog! Thanks so much for your kind words, and you're right - I think we all can fall into the trap of 'I'm not going all the way so it's not bad'...even just once in a while. By things we share when we talk to people, by the way we live and act, we are portraying Christ, in a good way or not. Thanks again for your comment. Glad to have you here!

Anonymous –   – (March 30, 2011 at 2:47 PM)  

WOW, Talia!! This post was like one of the best ones you've ever done! Seriously, ALL your posts are totally awesome, but this one - Wow! You are truly a great writer that writes for the glory of God. You are such a great Christian example, and all of your posts inspire me and help my relationship with God grow:) Thanks for being a great friend and for being who you are!!!:)
♥Love ya'll!♥

Talia  – (March 30, 2011 at 9:49 PM), your comment inspired ME so much!!! Thank you SO much! I really want people to come to know Christ, you know? He is so amazing. Wow...I cannot thank you enough for your words. Thank YOU for being a great friend (and for being you - just who God created you to be).

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